Are You Afraid of the Pain?

It is human nature to desire happiness and desist pain. But oftentimes, both of these won’t come to you without the other. The story then just depends on the way you look at these two realities in life when they actually happen to you.

Below is a story that I’d like to share with you today. May it remind us that like most of the little things that occurs in our day to day lives, the labor of working, misunderstandings in relationships, family conflicts, etc. all these are just part of our life’s effort required to help us appreciate happiness all the more. There is no happiness without pain.

As what they say, “If it feels easy, you’re doing it wrong”.


People often ask me how I do everything that I do.  Writer, blogger, teacher, father, spa industry leader . . . I wear many hats (and try to wear them well.)  I usually don’t know how to respond when someone asks me what my secret is, but I think I’ve finally figured it out:  I’m not afraid of the pain.

I was thinking about this last week when I went to Barbados on vacation with my wife, our two-year-old son Dylan and our six-week-old baby Max.  Traveling with two kids that young is not easy (in fact, it sucks) and most sane people wouldn’t even think of planning a trip like this.

Day one of our vacation was pretty miserable: getting two kids out of bed, fed and dressed at 5 a.m., mad dash to the airport, juggling strollers, boppies and baby bottles through the security checkpoint (our baby formula went through a chemical analysis that would make the cast of CSI proud) until we finally took off en route to Barbados. The four-hour plane ride was no picnic either, with a wriggling infant on each lap (particularly Dylan who seemed to only be able to distract himself from the discomfort of the flight by exploring new and innovative ways to annoy nearby passengers.)

You’re probably thinking we were finally able to relax once we landed in Barbados . . . No such luck.  We went through emotional meltdowns with each child as they adapted to their new environment.  So, by the end of the first day, I was exhausted, had a splitting headache, and was starting to wonder if this was a good idea.

But then came day two. Continue reading

True Success Is Dying With NO REGRETS! Be That Person!

The following is a post I’d like to share with you today. Hopefully this article will inspire you to live out your dream, leave all your worries, and live life to the fullest – just like what I’m doing. Enjoy!

by Mastin Kipp on February 28, 2012

Tony Robbins told me once, “The quality of your life is directly related to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with”.

This is some of the best advice I ever got.

What’s amazing to me about most of the people I meet and for my clients is that, truly, the only thing stopping them from living their dreams is the story and meaning they tell themselves about why it’s not possible.

Period. End of story

The whole conversation around “I don’t have the time or money” is just not a reality. We all have the same amount of time. We might not have the same amount of money, but money is just energy. And you can have tons of energy. On top of that, lack of money means you’ll just have to be more creative.

The truth is, Continue reading

10 Commandments for the Over-50s


1. Act and behave your age

Face and accept the reality of getting old, its consequences, and the limitations which growing old brings. Quit fooling yourself by trying to look like you were in your youth.

2. Move on

Focus on enjoying people and not on indulging in/or accumulating material things. Enjoy life and meet new people. Do the things you have always wanted to do but was unable to do so. Follow your dream and your hearts’ desire. Continue reading

Clouds of Dreams on my Special Day

It was this same day last week when a significant number in my life changed, a new year had begun, new life, new hope, new dreams.

Dreams and visions floating in the distant innermost depth of one’s soul, lingering… clinging… wringing… waiting to be found and realized in a visionary’s mysterious being. And just like how clouds float in the distant skies, these dreams amazingly exposed their beauty on such lovely day of my life.

And so here are some of the myriad images captured by the scenic speck of my eyes in the glimpse of a minuscule lens of a wary traveller. Continue reading

One Incredible Journey Around the World

17 Countries. 343 Days. 6237 Photographs. One incredible journey.

Below is a video from a fellow traveler at heart that I’d like to share.

After I quit my job last year, I packed a bag, grabbed my camera and bought a one way ticket to London. 17 countries later, I put together this time lapse video of the many amazing places I came across. – Kien Lam

Time is Nothing // Around The World Time Lapse from Kien Lam on Vimeo.

**With a hope that someday I’ll also be able to make my own one.

Finding Happiness by Giving It Away

If there’s one thing in this world that may be received by giving – it is happiness.

As put forth by the Second Splendid Truth: One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; and One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.

Yes I am a firm believer of this, and I hope you are too. As such, I’d like to offer this section of my blog to make myself happy – by making you happy.

A lot of my friends say that one of the qualities they like about me is my ability to make them laugh. No matter how corny or not my jokes are (which most of the times are :D), the thought that these bring forth a smile to other people’s faces is enough to make me smile as well. Continue reading

Ang Nahanap kong Liwanag sa Kadiliman

Gabi na naman. Magpapaalam na naman si haring araw at papalit si kaibigang buwan. Ewan ko ba kung bakit gustong-gusto ko sa tuwing sumasapit ang gabi. Weirdo nga siguro ako kung tatawagin, pero pakialam ko, lahat naman ng tao ay may kanya-kanyang ka-weirdohan. Mas weirdo nga sigurong matatawag ang taong walang ka-weirdohan.

Ayos na sana lahat. Ang mga tao nasa kani-kanilang bahay na. Wala ng gumagala, maliban na lang kung piyesta at marami kang mapupuntahan na mga pakulo ni Mayor sa plaza. Ganito dito sa probinsya. Tahimik hindi gaya sa siyudad na ang gabi ay tila nagiging umaga na kung ingay lang ang pagbabasehan. Dito ganitong oras (7pm) nagpapahinga na ang mga tao. Magluluto. Kakain ng kanilang hapunan habang nagkukuwentuhan tungkol sa buhay-buhay nila. Pagkatapos ay magbubukas ng telebisyon at manonood ng balita. Magkukunwari na may pakialam sila sa mga nangyayari sa bansa, na kung pakikinggan mo ay wala naman silang ginawa kundi ang magreklamo at punain ang pagkakamali ng ibang taong nasa balita. Bakit ba kasi hindi na lang nila tingnan ang sarili nila bago ang iba, baka sakaling may magawa pa sila sa ikauunlad ng bansa natin. Continue reading

Singapore Chronicles: Off to Asia’s Favourite Playground – Sentosa Island! (4/4)

The goal for our second day in Singapore was simple: Explore Sentosa Island.

As early as 8am, we were already up and ready for our day of getting lost in the marvellous theme park! I just couldn’t help but feel giddy in excitement as we made our way to Resorts World. Continue reading

Singapore Chronicles

After taking a nap, and with a camera on one hand and the itinerary on the other, we headed out to get to know Singapore more.  Getting around Singapore is not difficult. It’s just a small place that you could actually visit almost all the places aboard their MRT.

We ‘topped up’ (that’s how they call loading their cards here) our MRT cards and headed to our first stop this afternoon – Raffles Place. Continue reading